Somatic Holding
One-to-One | Nature Immersions
If you feel sh*t, i want you to know it’s by design.
Self Awareness | Critical Thinking | Re-Programming
Increasing your capacity to tolerate discomfort so you can break free of all the toxic bullshit.
Either something bad has happened to you & you have been left to carry that for a lifetime. And that is so fucking unfair.
And/ or your family dynamics or the societal systems you were raised within programmed you to put everyone else’s needs before your own.
To be a good person is to be accepted. That means:
Don’t question authority. Know your place. Don’t challenge the status quo. Be a people pleaser. Don’t have needs. Don’t react. Never cause a scene. Don’t make others feel uncomfortable. Don’t expect accountability. Solve your own problems. Stop bringing it up. Uphold the family name. Look good. Get over it. Don’t speak the truth. Brush it under the rug. Ignore their bad behaviour. It’s your problem. You’re exaggerating. You know what they’re like. Let it go. Don’t keep bringing that up. Now’s not the time. Move on. You’re being unreasonable. Why are you like this? What’s wrong with you?
Sound familiar?
You learn if you feel bad/ can’t function/ rebel, then it’s a ‘you’ problem. That you are broken & need fixing. Maybe you have a certain diagnosis, your trauma is given a label. Your symptoms are ‘managed’, medicated and nothing ever seems to really work.
I’m here to tell you all of that is messed up, and I think you already know that.
Your mask is slipping, you cannot keep up the pretence, you want more for yourself than this. You’ve got one life and you’re here to be fully alive.
You’ve tried therapy, read all the self help books going, your podcast library looks like it belongs to an actual therapist. You already know what the ‘professional’ will say. You know your patterns, understand relationship dynamics and can give ‘good answers’ to the classic “how does that make you feel”.
But that’s part of it, you don’t really ‘feel’ anything. When things get intense. You’re numb. Tapped out. Disassociated. ‘Everything’s Fine’.
You are so exhausted by life that your capacity to tolerate the discomfort of feeling anything let alone making any changes is on the floor.
One last thing - you do not need to change who you are.
You just need to build your capacity to empower the real you to step forward.
And the only way to do that is create enough safety inside of you to let the healing really take hold. Once you feel stable and safe, transformation can begin.
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the truth is…
Writing it in your journal isn’t going to change anything.
You know exactly what your talk therapist is going to say before they do.
You are not stupid, you know you have made some unwise choices, too concerned with pleasing others. Not really knowing what you wanted.
But you refuse to waste any more of your life being the last one on the list.
You know you’re at a crossroads when you deeply desire time alone, you resent how much of your life force and time is wasted on a job that feels soulless, you’re irritable with your family, you make excuses or cancel plans with your old friends, you get sober, you limit time spent with extended family because it’s triggering af and you can no longer tolerate all the enabling bullshit.
You can’t concentrate - your mind always finds its way back to the what’s if, the fear, doubt & guilt constantly spiralling your mind.
Your need to be understood has left the chat.
Talk therapy, medication, sound baths, yoga, breathwork, journaling and meditation practices don’t touch beneath the surface. They take the edge off, provide temporary relief. Moments of escape.
What you need is a place to untangle every thread. To speak without judgement, to feel everything that rages in your soul, to roar, ‘ugly’ cry, process, feel and integrate and allow everything you’ve been carrying to move through you.
Somatic holding doesn’t ask you to avoid what’s wrong, it takes you safely to the edges of your grief, emotional pain, discomfort and trauma so you can find stability. Then we go deeper.We get to the root. Together.
And when your nervous system can’t take any more you can borrow mine.
I will hold you & walk with you as you step over the threshold and reclaim your one precious life.
